I’m sharing a more personal post today in the hopes that it might help someone else. I had a conversation with my husband last night that sparked some thoughts I’d like to share with you. Our conversation caused me to take a step back and look at the way we support each other. It made me realize the importance of having someone in your corner.
Last night, my husband wanted to talk to me. Something had been on his mind all day. But we were working, then dealing with other things at home, and we were too busy to really talk to each other for most of the day. When things had finally settled down in the evening, I jumped on the computer for some quality Pinterest time. He checked his work email.
Then he came out into the living room and said, “So, sigh, let me tell you what’s going on…”
I closed the computer and listed to him while he told me about his worries. I couldn’t fix them. I made some small suggestions that he’d already thought of. I didn’t have the answer. But I listened. And that helped.
After our conversation, as he was walking away, husband turned back and said, “I tell you everything and I feel better about it afterwards.”
My response, of course, was “I like that. I’m going to write that down.”
I tell my husband mostly everything too. He gets every small detail of my day. Throughout the day when something that is notable (to me) happens, my first thought is “I can’t wait to tell him about this.” It really helps to just talk about it, especially when it’s something that bothers me. Hearing a problem out loud is the best way to decide exactly how big or small that problem is.
I’ll be super honest though. I was not always this way. I used to keep mostly everything to myself. I didn’t want to burden anyone else with my problems. Ironically, my problems were actually much bigger at the time. I’d just bottle everything up and pretend nothing bothered me. This was stupid.
Our feelings become like a pressure cooker. If you bottle everything up, you explode.
It’s so important to have someone you can tell your worries to. I know for many it isn’t going to be your spouse, we are just lucky in that way. But you need someone. Someone who can listen to your problems when you’ve had a rough day. Someone to celebrate with when you’ve made a small accomplishment.
You need to know someone is in your corner.
If you’d like to know more about my story read:
A Spender and A Saver Fall in Love – the story of how I changed my spending ways and improved my life.
3 Tips to Cut your Electric Bill in Half -another time I changed my mind about the way I was doing things.